Dating Fatigue is Real
Finding Authentic Love Doesn't Have to Feel Like a Full-Time Job
The reality of 21st-century dating? Exhausting.
Swiping, ghosting, and endless “situationships” leave even the best of us burned out. But opting out entirely isn’t the only alternative. Toxic relationships are bad for your health, but healthy, loving partnerships actually ADD years to your life.
The solution? Learn how to cut through the fluff, find, and be ready for, an emotionally mature, commitment-oriented partner.
You don't have to do this on your own.
There's a better way, and it starts with a community built for you.
WHAT IS THE COLLECTIVE?
The Collective is private, women-only space, where we filter out the noise of modern dating. Here, we share hard-won wisdom, vet potential matches, and keep each other safe. Together, we crowdsource emotionally mature, commitment-ready men into a carefully curated pool, and make sure the rest never make it through the gate.
HOW IT WORKS:
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It's a Sisterhood: Women-only, supportive space. Advice from women you can trust.
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No Scams, No Catfish: Men are vetted before joining, so you won’t waste time on fakes or frauds.
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Nominate a Needle: Know a great guy who’s not your match? Refer him to the Collective for review.
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Learn to Date Smarter: Gain the tools to navigate dating safely, effectively, and with confidence.
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Keep the Creeps Out: Wall of Shame for unsafe or disrespectful behaviour, there's no hiding here!
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Discussion Forums: Stay up to date on the latest trends and know the resources worth following.
WHY WE BUILT IT THIS WAY
The Collective isn’t just a Dating Community ~ it’s a MOVEMENT
This is a social experiment I’ve been quietly cooking up for years. It began with the frustration I saw in some of my closest friends as they struggled to find compatible partners who treated them with the love and respect they deserved. Then, working with women one-on-one, I watched as one after another, smart, capable women, gave up on love because dating in the 21st century had become a full-time job of emotional burnout and disappointment.
As the idea grew, it was shaped by three unapologetic feminist voices:
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Jennie Young, creator of the Burned Haystack Dating Method, who applied critical discourse analysis to dating, & teaches women how to filter men and stop wasting time.
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Just Being Melanie, founder of the 'We Do Not Care' ethos, whose defiant and humorous stance has sparked a rallying cry for women to prioritize their happiness, time, and energy.
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Laura Richards, producer of the Crime Analyst podcast and a fierce advocate for ending gender-based violence, she is the unrelenting voice of countless women terrorized by their intimate partners.
I’ve learned so much from these women and woven these principles together and combined them with real-world, research-backed psychological practices to create a space that is both safe and effective, where you can date smarter, protect your energy, and be supported by women who have your back.
Let's see where this takes us!
WHAT JOINING THE COLLECTIVE LOOKS LIKE
Here’s how the Collective helps you date smarter, safer, and with more support
Step 1:
Create Your Profile
Upload a photo, & share a little about yourself. It's the 1st step to keeping the space safe, & personal.
Step 4:
Nominate a Needle
Know a man who’s a genuine standout? Submit him for review — he might be someone else’s perfect match.
Step 2:
Start Here
Learn our core practices for safe, smart dating and see what makes us different.
Step 5:
Join dating-lab
Join our twice-monthly sessions to master the screening process, develop boundaries & spot high-quality men.
Step 3:
Join the Conversation
Add your voice to the forums, sharpen your skills, & connect with women who have your back.
Step 6:
Matches & Momentum
Keep dating, keep growing, and contributing, so you'll be ready and confident when the right match comes along.
Join Free - Stay as Long as You Like: No obligation. No upfront cost. Enjoy the community, learn, and connect—or opt into matchmaking only if and when you’re ready.
READY TO GET STARTED? Join our private Collective ~ You’ll build skills, meet great people, and move one step closer to the relationship you actually want.
LAUNCHING
LATE FALL
2025
AND WHILE YOU WAIT ... WHY NOT STRENGTHEN YOUR STRATEGY ?
We’re selective about who we match, and that takes time.
But while you’re waiting to meet a potential 'needle', you don’t have to sit around.
Join us for dating-lab, live, interactive, drop-in sessions that teach you how to spot red flags, green lights, and everything in between. You’ll sharpen your dating discernment, gain real-world tools, and show up to your next connection with confidence, clarity, and zero tolerance for nonsense.
Because finding the right person is only half the battle, recognizing them is the rest.
What is
dating - lab?
Dating-Lab is where real-world dating meets straight talk.
It’s a live, interactive drop-in workshop series designed to help you decode the chaos of modern dating using psychology, research, and a healthy dose of common sense. Think of it as your dating debrief meets discernment training, no fluff, no gimmicks, just practical tools that actually work.
Whether you’re new to dating, coming out of a situationship, or tired of repeating the same patterns with different faces, dating-lab gives you the framework to understand why things keep going sideways, and how to stop wasting time on connections that aren’t aligned.
You’ll learn:
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How to screen potential matches like a pro (without turning into a robot)
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The top red and green flags to pay attention to
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How to avoid lovebombs, breadcrumbing, and emotional bait-and-switches
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How to show up with self-respect, clarity, and zero apology for your standards
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What healthy, mutual interest actually looks like (and feels like)
dating-lab isn’t about playing games, it’s about building discernment, confidence, and connection from the inside out.
Lose the drama. Keep the data. Rewrite your dating story.
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You’re tired of swiping and wondering why you’re still single despite all your effort.
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You want to learn how to spot red flags before you’re emotionally invested.
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You’re ready to take radical responsibility for your patterns — no more blaming or bypassing.
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You’re curious about how to apply psychology-backed strategies to your dating life.
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You’re craving real talk, structured support, and smart tools (not fluff or fairy tales).
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You’re open to feedback and willing to experiment with new ways of showing up.
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You want to be part of a community where discernment is sexy and self-respect is non-negotiable.
dating-lab isn’t for you if…
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You’re hoping someone else will fix your dating life for you.
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You’re not ready to reflect on your own role in your relationship patterns.
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You prefer venting over solutions.
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You’re looking for guaranteed matches, not personal growth.
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You get defensive when offered kind, constructive feedback.
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You think ghosting is an acceptable form of communication.
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You’re more interested in playing the game than building something real.
